ENDINGS……LESSONS…..NEW BEGINNINGS!

December 30, 2012 in Uncategorized

As we bid farewell to 2012 and enter a new year, just about everyone is scurrying around frantically to get his or her resolutions named, noted, and perhaps shared.

Oh, so much busy-ness! It almost makes me dizzy.

No one ever bucks tradition, preferring, of course to do what is tried and true, what is safe. What is acceptable?

Newspapers, magazines, blogs, radio shows and social site comments are all focused on The New Year Resolutions.

There is nothing wrong with that. Absolutely nothing. I’m just saying. Get out of the blooming box! However you can, crawl out of the box. You must!!

It’s for your sake. Not mine. It’s time to have the courage to face and overcome inner obstacles.

I am sitting here on this beautiful sunny December afternoon, and I realize how many people are crippled by fear. Shame. Un-worthiness and disquiet.

This will not speak to everyone, but for the folks, with whom this resonates, listen up!

If you are desperately wanting to be in a relationship – get a relationship! You might have to begin with you but that’s all right! In fact it’s more than all right. It’s the only place to begin.

If you want out of a relationship – get the heck out, if it’s not serving you or the other person. Relationships begin and they end.

Stop being a wuss! Enough already. Walk away.

Don’t stay for the children. The children know it’s jacked up. They are also unhappy.

Don’t stay because of finances. Get some backbone and be ok with starting over. It’s not easy. It’s possible.

Are the material possessions and status more important than your peace of mind? Only you can answer that. But it requires honesty!

You’ve lost all your friends, because you’re now penniless. Jump for joy!

If they were your friends when you had money, they will be your friends when you are broke. Friendship is not predicated on what you have. It’s about who you are. If they’ve stayed away. Perhaps it’s time to say good riddance.

Feeling insecure because you’ve made several attempts at the perfect job or the next business, and they’ve all failed? Time for rejoicing.

Failure is not for the faint of heart. Failure is for the ones, who will fall down, get bruised, get up, and start again. And again. And again.

As long as you’re not dead – you CAN begin again. Ask any person who is enjoying success. They’ll tell you about their miss-steps and learnings.

Ever notice how when you’re “successful” you’re more attractive?

Heaven help you if you’ve lost your house to foreclosure, or a divorce. You’re avoided like the plague. Your best friend might suddenly be more possessive of their husband while in your presence.

You’ll get some sympathy if you’ve lost everything in a hurricane, a fire, a tornado or other “Acts of God.”

Makes me wonder if God is selective about the Acts, or are they random? That’s a whole other discussion.

Are your creditors calling and demanding payment? But you don’t have the money? Heck, if the United States can’t get its fiscal house in order, cut yourself some slack. Being in debt is not the end of the world! Who isn’t in debt?

They’ll have to wait. They can wait. They will wait, and they can make your life hell – if you let them.

Folks, I’m not saying it’s easy. In fact, it’s down right hard. Life has challenges.

Shift Happens all the time.

Make your intentions for 2013 be about honesty. Be honest to yourself.
Let go of the shame. Let go of the feelings of un-deservedness. Learn from the failures (there’s really no such thing as failure).

Choose to be phenomenal, despite the odds. Choose to be magnificent, you are. Choose to be relevant. You’re here. Choose to grow from your mistakes. You have. Choose to welcome your misfortunes. They’ve made who you are….. becoming. You are the light. Shine brightly in 2013.

There, doesn’t that feel like you’ve shed some very heavy weight. Lighten the burden. This is your beginning. You are perfect, AND there’s work to be done.

This is not about resolutions. It’s about Shift.

It’s Happening!

Change of Seasons, Change of YOU!

September 28, 2012 in Uncategorized

Most of us cringe at the thought of change whilst others thrive on the sheer joys or mere anticipation of it. Clearly, the latter group are the ones who find it easier to move forward and are making the most of life!

Summer is giving way to autumn, even though our California weather is deceiving us. I am reveling in this tiny shift. The cooler mornings. Getting up when it’s still dark. All the things that let me know, a change is a coming!

I know that way too soon, I will join others in the complaints about the cold, the rain, the fallen leaves……

So in keeping with change, I decided the other day to give myself over to technology completely. Ok, so I may be a little behind the times with this. But I decided to trust my GPS (Going Painfully Slow) to take me somewhere that I had been to many times before. I decided that I would pretend I had no idea where I was going, and be led by this trusty device.

I plugged in the destination, and followed the instructions. I was actually in Fair Oaks, and my destination was Folsom. That is about a 12-15 minute drive. I set out, being careful to follow the instructions.

Ok, it was a test!! A test of my patience. A test of change that is unknown. A change of simply doing something different.

The trusty directionally challenged device took me to I-80. I complied. It then took me to I-5. It was instructing me to go to Highway 99 when I decided that this change – this compliance with this device was for the birds! It was taking me in the completely opposite direction to where I wanted to go.

I navigated my way towards Highway 50, via downtown, and finally got to my destination. NOT, with any special assist from that device.

When I arrived, I had to laugh at my stupidity. Yes, stupidity. I trusted this thing to take me on a not too scenic route of Sacramento. Luckily, it was not during the rush hour. I simply wanted to see what it was like to acquiesce to this object that’s designed for convenience, speed, and comfort.

Since on this occasion it was not convenient, it did not get me there in a timely manner, nor was it comfortable. If I were unfamiliar with Sacramento, I would be simply up the creek.

The object lesson was, do not trust your life to inanimate objects. Let your knowledge and intuition be your guide